How I Feel About Blogging, or The Post That Infuriated You

I’ve been pondering my feelings towards blogging for quite some time now. It’s become a serious love/hate thing for me recently. I do fully intend to come back to blogging, mostly because I have a purpose for doing so, however, I feel that I owe it to you to let you in on a little truth about me.

Ready?

I do not, and will not blog for a sense of community. I know that is what so many of you blog for, and that’s great. Truly. But that’s not why I’m here. I get the “community” and interaction I seek via twitter and Facebook… not my blog. And I know I will pay dearly for saying this, but I’m not interested in being part of a blog community. Hear me out. I’m talking about having a circle of friends where we all diligently read one another’s blog daily because we feel required to in order to maintain our status inside said bloggy click, and in turn make others feel obligated to do the same for us.

Quite frankly, I’ve had it up to here {holding hand above my head} with bloggers being wonderfully friendly, encouraging, and sociable as long as you frequent their blog and comment regularly. But the moment you cease giving them the attention they somehow believe they deserve from you, you are dropped like a bad habit. And it doesn’t even matter why you aren’t reading their blog! They immediately take it as a personal insult and commence to ignore you on every social platform known to mankind.

I’ve had this happen on many occasions over the last year and a half. What these ladies do not seem to understand is that I simply do not have the time to read blog after blog every day simply to stimulate someone’s sense of personal accomplishment or whatever it’s about. I honestly don’t get it. I really couldn’t care less if no one comments on my blog. My self-worth is not attached to that. And yours shouldn’t be either.  In fact, I’m seriously considering disabling all comments when I return to blogging. I don’t want that “I commented on your blog, so you must return the favor if you’re a decent person” mentality looming over my head, and my blog.

Listen… if I spend a morning or afternoon reading blogs and commenting on them, but my house is a mess when my husband comes home from work, or I have neglected my children to do so, then I have failed. Miserably. I will read a blog here and there when I have a free moment, but I’m not going to set aside precious time to do it. I have too much on my plate. And I’m not going to read a blog and comment simply for the sake of doing so.

If I take time to read a post it’s only because it is relevant to me in some way, shows me how to do something, or answers a question. I’m sorry. But I will not read blogs out of a sense of duty. Even if I love you as a personal friend. But guess what! I don’t want you doing that either. I will like you whether you read my blog or not. Plain and simple.

I will continue blogging… for a cause and with a purpose. But understand this – I will not be blogging to please you. I won’t even be blogging for me. I will be blogging for whatever random person happens upon my blog because it has something relevant to what they are searching for. Could be a bit of random information, or maybe some creative inspiration to ignite something within them. I don’t know. And I have a greater cause that will be announced soon. But I don’t want you to feel obligated to come by and read every. single. post. because, quite honestly, I’m not going to do that for you either. So you are off the hook here! If you don’t hate my guts by now, then I invite you to visit when something snags your interest… but only then. I don’t want you wasting your precious time reading something that has no meaning to you, as I’m certainly not willing to do that either.

If you happened to catch me during one of my short-lived blog reading seasons, and had the experience of me reading your blog on a somewhat regular basis and then suddenly stop… please know it is not about you or your blog. I didn’t stop reading your blog because I don’t like you or it. I probably stopped reading your blog because I like my family more. I already have a very hard time balancing everything I need and want to do in one day. When I try to add an extra hour of blog reading to that, I don’t seem to get the important tasks done. I don’t know why it makes such a huge difference in my day, but it does. And it causes me to have one heckofa headache to boot. What I’m trying to say is, if I hurt your feelings, I am truly sorry – it was not intentional. And if you are one of those people that will only like me if I visit and comment on your blog regularly… well, I think we are done here because I probably wont give you that.

I don’t view blogging as a popularity contest. Sure, I’d like to have some sweet, faithful friends online, but this is not my purpose for blogging. So, if you are willing to accept me as I am, then let us hook up on twitter or facebook where we can have some real interaction… with minimal damage to our schedules and To-Do Lists.

I think I’m being realistic. You may view this as narcissistic. But whatever it is, it is also 100% honesty and 100% ME. Take it or leave it. Totally up to you. I’m starting over with this blog thing. I’ve made it clear what you can expect. Stick around or run away. The choice is yours and I won’t even hate you.

CHEERS!

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